“If we have built on the fragile cornerstones of human wisdom, pride, and conditional love, things may look good for a while, but a weak foundation causes collapse when storms hit.”

Charles Stanley, Pastor First Baptist Church Atlanta


Matthew 7:25; 2 Timothy 2:15; Romans 12:3; 1 Corinthians 13:11; Proverbs 1:5, 12:15



As some point during a young boy’s life, he begins to question his identity.  Depending on a seemingly endless list of environmental factors and his relationship (or lack of) with his father, some young men grow up with a firm sense of self that grows into a mature view of God, life, family, and the list goes on.  Unfortunately, many men struggle through these years with a culturally distorted view of self and manhood; these unanswered questions can often last a lifetime and lead to some pretty funky places and behaviors as a man.

“What is man that You take thought of him, and the son of man that You care for him? Yet You have made him a little lower than God, and You crown him with glory and majesty!”  (Psalm 8:4-5, NASB)


  Manhood is NOT Self-Defined

The reality is that God has already laid out the framework for “Authentic Manhood?  In fact, the characteristics that make you a good son of God are also the ones that make you a good “Man” of God. Men wrestle with issues of identity primarily because they don’t build on a stable foundation. Identity is clearly defined, established, and confirmed within the framework of Biblical Truth. It is NOT Self-Defined.  Bottom line . . . you are who God says you are.  Your identity is:

  • CLARIFIED in God’s Word:
    • We need to MAN UP and WISE UP and trust that God’s Word is relevant, rational, and applicable for all things related to manhood.  It tells us what is right, what isn’t right, how to get right, and how to stay right.  (see 2 Timothy 3:16)
  • A CHOICE to be Made:
    • We need to MAN UP and GROW UP and finally tell the little boy inside that it’s time to be a man.  There is a big difference between being “childlike” and being “childish”.  As men, we have the opportunity to decide both HOW we grow up and WHEN we grow up.
  • CONFIRMED by Wise Counsel:
    • We need to MAN UP and LISTEN UP to the wisdom of those around us that matter.  If you are getting your “manhood” advice from popular magazines, movies, and more; they you will end up with a distorted perspective of manhood.  Find some men of God that you trust and respect and listen carefully to their counsel.


“Dear God, I don’t want to be the master of my own destiny and I’m tired of trying to live up to the cultural expectations of what they say I’m supposed to be as a man.  Here and now, I am trusting in Your Word as my framework and road map for being an Authentic Man of God.  I choose to set aside all of my childish ways and choose to be the man you have called me to be.  I’m asking you to put some Godly men in my life that will serve as a sounding board for making sure I stay on track.  Thank you for helping me find my identity in You.  AMEN”